Marriage after 5 months of dating
We are both in our 30s, and I think once you reach a certain age, you know what you want and you know what you need and when you find it, you hold on tight." Nine months: "I remember thinking at three months that I would totally marry him right now.But then we got to know each other even more, we got into some necessary arguments, and our love grew even stronger.
The study also looked at couples who were quicker to get married.Here, nine couples reveal how long they waited and why.Five months: "We were in love and wanted to start the rest of our lives together. You see, I've always had this two year rule in my mind for how long I want to date someone before we get married. After twenty-four months together, you usually know whether your partner is someone you could really commit to—forever.But a lot of my friends have been getting married with fewer than this magical two years under their belts, and it's making me second-guess my rule. Does it really matter at all how long you date before you get married?And the survery concludes the same for engagement rings: "Spending between $2,000 and $4,000 on an engagement ring is associated with a 1.3 times greater hazard of divorce as compared to spending between $500 and $2,000." The study found that when the couple has over 200 guests at their wedding, their chances of divorce decrease by 92 percent.
"Clearly, this shows us that having a large group of family and friends who support the marriage is critically important to long-term marital stability," said Olson.
Couples that went to religious services and those that went away on a honeymoon had lower chances of divorcing.
According to the findings, couples who went on a honeymoon were 41 percent less likely to divorce, while those who never attend church are twice as likely to divorce.
Having kids and different schedules and living in different houses makes getting together challenging. There have been stretches of times when I haven’t seen my boyfriend for two weeks, because our schedules didn’t allow for it. Fast forward to two years later, which was last week. But, the truth of the matter is, Pete’s marriage ended because Pete had no business getting married.
So, trust me, those are the times I say to myself, ‘Maybe marriage is a good idea.’ But, if you really sit down and think about it, you better be pretty darn sure this is “the one” AGAIN because the last thing anyone wants is another divorce. Lexie gets a text from Pete that he is single again. He barely knew the girl, he has two young kids who are undoubtedly still trying to cope with their parents divorce, and he himself needs to heal from the first divorce, still.
I did some digging and reached out to relationship therapists and psychologists to get their thoughts.