Dating someone different from you
I always thought I would meet a lanky blonde Italian vegetarian dude with long hippie hair who loves Todd Rundgren as much as I do and is very simple and is extremely outgoing and loud. But maybe he lives in Dublin or something, and never our paths would meet. The chances of meeting your one soul mate is like 1 in 10,000! (Warning: I will probably tell you to put the list in the blender with your AM smoothie.) Email your list to [email protected] ] You know that feeling when you’re traveling across time zones or you’re studying abroad or you’ve been on vacation for 8 days and you can’t remember what day it is anymore?
Take the famous 1995 experiment, for example: a group of women smelled the sweaty T-shirts of men, claiming to be more attracted to the scent of men who were genetically dissimilar to them.I’ve always been an artist myself, but have NEVER appreciated men with these qualities.I feel good about this new development, as I think it means I have more self-confidence, am less competitive, and just long for someone who understands the pros and cons of being creative for a living.hen it comes to dating, you’ve probably witnessed your close friends and family unanimously agree that finding a partner exactly like you will bring long-term happiness and success in the relationship.While having a few common interests and basic outlook on life is important, dating someone too similar to yourself could lead to stagnancy, boredom, and dissatisfaction down the road. Having the same likes and dislikes, the same quirks, same hobbies, exact same personality, taste in food…you would eventually feel trapped and complacent, and would likely seek someone who complemented you rather than mirrored you.Maybe one of you is a shy introvert who just likes to spend time at home and not socialize with people too often.
Your partner might have a more extroverted, loud personality, encouraging you to get out more and connect with others.
People often say that opposites attract, but attraction doesn’t automatically imply compatibility or optimal health.
Lots of times we are attracted to things without them being inherently good for us, take for instance, our attraction to gossip, junk food, inactivity, and quick money: the attraction is certainly very real, but the benefits can be fleeting without the right work ethic to back it up.
There’s just one big thing I can’t seem to grasp: Is there a difference between compatibility and commonalities?
I’ve recently become interested in the artistic, sensitive type men.
This is cited as one of the most important modern scientific studies, because it lends truth to the saying that opposites do, indeed, attract.