Dating a bipolar sufferer
The more you do without receiving anything positive in return, the greater the frustration and resentment. Come to think of it, they change in the midst of any major illness that incapacitates a loved one physically, emotionally, or mentally.In the case of bipolar disorder, these periods of illness may be only temporary and, we hope, short lived.
I aim to provide you with meaningful tools to help not only the Survivor in your life but allow the supporter to preserve themselves in the process.We got some interesting comments sharing that dating with bipolar…”What a nightmare that was”…Daniel B.continues, “I found that the dating didn’t become enjoyable until I separated my moods from it”.In last Wednesday’s BP Hope Mental Health Humor post, we talked about sharing your experiences for the Winter issues Sound-Off section.The post titled “How do you navigate the dating scene with bipolar” took a somewhat humorous look at the dating scene with my “dating rules” for people living with Bipolar Disorder.Unlike most of my "normal" friends I've never tried internet dating and at times felt like I've been missing out on all the fun, but I dreaded the whole "shall I say something? He is very accepting and understanding of my bipolar.
He has a diagnosed personality disorder and is having long term treatment so our lifestyles are quite similar which helps me feel less alienated to the rest of the world.
He is however often the target of my frustrations, purely because I trust him more than anyone else - ironic as it is that the one's we love the most are the ones we push away - but he has learnt not to take my negativity too personally.
This took time, but only because I spent so long in denial about being bipolar (about the first three years of our relationship) that I wouldn't let him try and reason with me.
Some time ago, Bob posted a story on our original Bipolar Blog called “Heartbroken and devastated from ending a marriage with my bipolar wife.” In his story, Bob talks about all he would do for his wife only to feel unappreciated and heartbroken. Nobody really knows what goes on behind closed doors in anyone’s home.
However, I could sort of relate to Bob’s description of how he responded and how he felt.
It is an unavoidable fact of living with a mood disorder or mental illness.